Planning a wedding can make you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster. It can take you up high, and drop you back down low in an instant. The stress of planning such a large event, the pressure you put on yourself for everything to be perfect, and the importance of everything your wedding symbolizes will certainly take a toll on you.
Under these circumstances, you need to be surrounded by a team of people who understand you, who you can count on, and who will go the extra mile to support you. No, we don’t mean your planning team, though they will certainly be all of those things for you, as well! We’re talking about your bridesmaids.
How do you choose these super-ladies? Not to worry, we have some tips for you!
- Make a list of your desired bridesmaids. Who are they and, very importantly, how available will they be throughout the wedding planning process? If you’re OK with one or two of them being more of a moral support because they’re very busy, live far away, or simply have their own life events to deal with, that’s OK. However, if you expect all of your bridesmaids to be fully involved in the planning process, make sure you’re very clear about that from the very beginning. You’ll suffer less heartache and stress if you manage expectations from the start.
- Say “I don’t” to the drama queens. We all have friends and family members who we love and adore, but who like to leave a trail of chaos and tears everywhere they go. This is not the girl for you! Your engagement and wedding day should be filled with people who put out fires, not start them. love, a calm disposition, and good energy should all be qualifying criteria for your Bride Tribe.
- Propose to them. Make it a nice surprise when you pop the question. Some brides prepare gifts for this occasion, others personalize cards and pop open a bottle of champagne. In the end – what’s most important is that you show your super-ladies how important they are to you.
- Keep the Bridezilla deep down inside you. At some point, one of these lovely ladies will find a way to reef on your last nerve, and with the pressure of planning already upon you, it’s hard to keep bridezilla suppressed. But don’t let her out! Lashing out to your bridesmaid, no matter how justified, will lead to a damaged relationship, and an emotional and awkward wedding day. Instead, take a deep breath, and talk to her about it. If that isn’t an option, recruit another bridesmaid to talk to her for you. Whatever you do, strive for a peaceful resolution.
Treat your bridesmaids like the loved and appreciated people they are. You’re going to rely on them for a lot in the coming months, so make sure they know how grateful you are for them.